What to Do?
Many people have never planned a funeral before, and it can at first be overwhelming. It is our obligation to provide you with the guidance and care you deserve. To that end, we have compiled the information below to help you know what to expect should you have to plan funeral arrangements.
Services of the funeral director immediately following death
Following the death, your funeral home will go to the place of death (provided it is within the state due to certain state laws). The deceased will be brought to the funeral home and, depending what sort of services are provided, embalming may be required. Embalming is the temporary preservation for visitation purposes. Cremation does not require embalming.
The arrangement process
When you arrive at the funeral home, the funeral director of your choice will greet you at the door. You will be brought to a private room where the arrangement process will begin. You will be asked a series of biographical questions about the deceased, such as name, date of birth, social security number; these questions are quite specific and may even entail the names of family members that will be mentioned in the obituary. Much of the information is used for state vital statistics and obituary. All of your information is confidential and will not be used for any other purpose other than what was mentioned.
The obituary should contain information about a person that is important to you. Where they worked, accomplishments, armed service, and hobbies are just a few things you may want to think about. You may opt to write the obituary yourself. The obituary is a wonderful but brief reflection of who the deceased was to family and friends, and you are free to share that reflection in any way you see fit.
Services and options
When all biographical info is collected, your funeral director will ask you about the type of service you would like them to provide. As there are many types of services, directors will likely simply ask you if you prefer traditional burial (calling hours, funeral and burial the next day) or direct cremation (no services prior to cremation). While these two types of servicee are the most basic, they can be altered:
1. Traditional burial is general more costly due to the amount of services and merchandise provided by the funeral home. Traditional services general include:
a. Calling hours, two sets or more.
b. A Funeral service, whether in the funeral home, church or in the home of the decedent.
c. A burial in the family plot or cemetery.
2. The funeral home can also provide a graveside service which may include but not limited to:
a. Direct burial without services.
b. No service at the funeral home, family and friends will meet at the cemetery and services held there.
c. You may have calling hours then graveside service.
3. Cremation is the most versatile and inexpensive method of disposition. This is due to the fact that it requires less merchandise and service by the funeral home. One may bring the cremated remains to anyplace necessary for services, again eliminating the need for service of the funeral director. There is a 48 hr waiting period between time of death and when cremation can occur.
Some families choose to use the funeral director for their service in the event they want the service to be organized by a professional. Options with cremation are endless but we can mention a few:
a. Traditional cremation - you may purchase a casket or rent a casket from your funeral home for calling hours and then a funeral service.
b. Direct cremation, services are general provided after the cremation has occurred.
c. Cremation with a memorial service held at a time and place chosen by the family.
d. Cremation with a graveside service in the cemetery.
e. Cremation is an accepted form of disposition by the catholic church and services maybe held there also.
The role of the funeral director
These are just a few of the most common, but you can discuss other options with your funeral director. Funeral directors are there to guide you through the decisions required at the time of planning, and to help you determine what kinds of services are appropriate for you.